Family Pic Sept 2015

Family Pic Sept 2015

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Audrey Danielle.

My beautiful niece.



 
A couple weekends ago, Lily and I visited Jenny's house so we could meet the newest addition to our family.  Lily was completely enamored with her newest cousin.
 




 
So precious. 
 
(This version of Lily is what gets me through the version where the devil is oozing out her eyeballs!)
 
While we were off visiting in Ohio, Tyler and Daddy had a man's weekend.  They never left the house.  I got several texts while I was away.
 

"I will eat Mama's potato soup.  I won't eat green beans anymore, but I will dunk them in the potatoes and eat them."

"Animal Crackers for breakfast dessert!"

"Tyler and his turd stealing monkey are throwing away trash."
 

"Playing with sister's toys cause she's not here!  Nah-nah-nuh-nah-nah!"

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

"I had fun with you today Daddy."

Those are probably the sweetest words that Joel has ever heard in his life. 
 
 
And his beautiful daughter said them to him after they spent some 1:1 time together at the indoor playground yesterday after school.
 
Joel decided to spend some 1:1 time with Lily because we've been having a lot of trouble lately with her attitude.  Lots of screaming fits.  And by "fits" I mean all out raging, yelling, blood vessel popping, hulk-like tantrums.  That last 30 minutes. 
 
I feel like we've tried everything to get her to "straighten up" or even just calm down.  Time out is ineffective.  Spanking is ineffective.  Taking things away is ineffective.  Talking in calm voices down at her level is ineffective.  Trying to "hug it out" is ineffective. 
 
So instead, Joel wanted to try something completely different - which we did a year ago when Tyler was born and we had tantrum issues.  He took her out to do something fun.  Just the two of them.  They went to the Commons playground and played and played.  He bought her a treat from Subway.  They had a great time.  It was good for both of their souls and I was happy for that.
 
So when Lily said, "I had fun with you today Daddy" last night during dinner completely out of no where, I started to cry a little bit.  Both because it was absolutely one of the sweetest moments I've ever witnessed from Lily but also because I was hurt a little. 
 
I feel like I work so hard to make sure the kids are bathed and fed good food and get good nights sleep.  I buy them treats and I take Lily shopping, which she loves.  I fix Lily's hair and buy her Doc McStuffins clothes and barrettes.  Plus a million other things to try to make their lives good and fun and make them happy and feel safe and so on. 
 
So it stung a little, when we just came back from a girls weekend to visit baby Audrey which I had hoped would have a similar affect as the playground time Joel had.  And it most certainly didn't. Lily threw lots of tantrums.  I had to beg her to eat her food.  She ran around naked, unwilling to put her pajamas on.  She screamed at the top of her lungs.  Mom and Jenny and Josh are staring at us in complete disbelief.  Then yesterday morning, Lily woke up in a terrible mood and wouldn't get dressed - she was taking her clothes of faster than I could put them on her.  At one point, I threaten to leave, hoping to motivate her to get dressed.  I walked out the door with Tyler and she runs after me, naked, in the 40 degree weather.  So I put Tyler down and try to grab her and she takes off running in the front yard.  Naked.  The grass has frost on it.  I start crying.  She's already crying and screaming.  Tyler's screaming.  It was awful.  Really really awful.
 
So after almost 36 hours of Lily being a crazy person around me, I felt like I got punched in the guts when Daddy got to be the hero.  So I was happy for him, I really was, but I was also sad because I need a moment like that with my daughter.  My soul needs a little healing too.
 
On the bright side, today with Lily was better.  Not perfect, but much better.

Friday, November 1, 2013

Happy Halloween! Er, All Saints Day!

Due to the ugly, windy, rainy weather we had yesterday on Halloween, Trick-or-Treating was moved to today.  No complaints here!
 
I've had a pretty rough week (.....er, month..... no, make that quarter) at work and so I decided to skip out of work today at 3:30 and pick up the kiddos a little early so we could come home and take our time getting ready for Trick-or-Treating.
 
Lily was super excited to go Trick-or-Treating.  She asked me no less 47 times on the way home from daycare if we could go trick or treat.  How about now?  Now?  Can we go now?  Mommy?  Now?  Her excitement was really cute (and only slightly annoying). 
 
We came home and gave the kids some snacks and milk and took our time to get them ready in their costumes.  I took about 82 pictures and then we headed out the door to go to "Trunk-or-Treat" at the kids' daycare. 

Lily was soooo confused when we told her we were going back to school.  She got a little upset, "Mommy we're going to trick or treat!  I don't want to go to school today!!"  When we pulled into the parking lot she got a little more upset but we told her that she didn't have to go inside school.....just in the parking lot to get candy.  She was extremely skeptical.
 
So we head off toward the festivities and I grab the camera.... turn it on.... snap a picture.... then look down at the display and see the most horrifying thing written across it. 
 
NO CARD
 
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!! 
Those 82 pictures I took at home of the children behaving and posing so well in their costumes.... GONE.  Actually, probably not right to say they're GONE when they were never there to begin with.  I teared up.  I was devastated.  Why in the world didn't I check any of those pictures after I took them to see if they were any good??  I can be such a doofus.  (Feels like these days I'm a doofus more often than I'm in my right mind.....sigh.....)
 
But, thank goodness for camera phones.  All is not lost.  Oh wait!  I forgot my phone at home too.  I was really on a roll, eh?
 
But, thank goodness for my husband's camera phone!
 
Someone had an old-timey car there so we snapped a couple pictures in front of it.  Lily is decked out in her Doc McStuffins outfit.  And Tyler's sportin' Jackson's old lion costume. 
 

He was not in to the hood.  At all.


The lady at the first trunk knew Lily was Doc McStuffins which thrilled me to pieces.  Lily was so nervous and shy, she couldn't bring herself to say anything.  She just stared at the lady like she was the boogie man.  "Mommy, go with me."  That was the phrase of the evening. 


Tyler was all over the candy.  He was working hard at trying to get that chocolate open.



 
Trunk-or-Treat was a really nice thing that the church did.  We got candy, we bowled with a pumpkin, we drank cider and we stuck our hands in ghost poop to look for prizes.
 
 
After Trunk-or-Treat, we ran back home and ate a super quick supper so we could "get more candy."
 
Oh, and a picture re-do.
 











While sister's not looking, brother sneaks in and tries to swipe some candy!
 
 
And then finally, we hit the streets!
 



Tyler did wear his lion head for a good portion of the time we were outside which was good since it was a little windy.  I'm pretty sure he's the most adorable lion I've ever seen!


(He's giving Lily this look like "Girl, don't even THINK about LOOKING at my candy.")


Lily immediately tore into a pack of M&Ms.  She wound up with chocolate all over her face before we got the second house!





Look at that face!  Tyler, don't ever grow up, ok buddy?



This picture gives the illusion that Lily was brave and walking up to houses on her own.  But no.  She actually did better with that last year.  She wouldn't even "ring the ding dong" at any houses.  "You do it Mommy.  And come with me."


She did however, always say "Trick or Treat!" (sometimes so quietly that probably only I heard it, but it still counts).  And she said "Thank you" about 50% of the time without me reminding her.  That's pretty good for a not-even-3 year old.  




Lily was a good big sister and when the home owners told her to, she would take a piece of candy and put it in Tyler's bucket.  Skittles!  


(I know it wasn't the intent of this picture to capture Lily, but the teenager at this house (who snubbed out a cigarette as we were walking up) said, "Oh!  Are you Doc McMuffin?")




Lily walked quite a bit tonight.  I was really surprised at how long she lasted.


In fact, when we got home, she said, "I'm not done getting candy!  Are we going to get more?"
 

 
We then spent the next hour or so, passing out candy to about 15 kids.  The traffic was really slow, so we have a lot of candy left over.  Not good.
 
Lily however, was super excited when people came to the door.  If it were young kids (like 5 years old or less) she would hold the bowl so the kids could pick their candy.  But if it were older kids she didn't really want to have to get that close so she said, "You do it Mommy."
 
Tyler played and played and played and played.  For 60 straight minutes.  With his candy.  In and out of the car.  Candy in the seat of the car.  Then in the "trunk."  Then squeeze it and bite it through the wrapper.  He was having the time of his life.  And these pictures are the proof.